What are you so scared of?

What some men may fear in dating a Trans woman.
 

It’s seems there are many men who would very much like to have a sexual experience with a transsexual female. Many of whom will never admit to such a thing because they mistakenly believe that it would be a gay experience when in truth it is not. They go without it because of fear or seek it in secret and in hiding.

Some men have told me they seek the thrill of the surprise. To find out during a heated make-out session or in some other naughty way. This, to the TS female, is playing Russian roulette. Disclosing to a man while engaged in romantic activity is not only dangerous but potentially humiliating.

Sex is one thing, having a relationship is quite another. Due to the stigma and controlled consciousness of society some men fear others will find out if they make a TS woman their girlfriend.

They simply have no form of reference. They have no idea what to expect. They imagine the worst and those thoughts scare them. They might imagine a hairy lady with a big ugly … well, you know. They might wonder “Is she going to want to put it in my ass?” (For the record most TS females see themselves as women and have no interest whatsoever in that activity. To her, that would be a gay act between two males.)

They might assume all sorts of fallacies. Their fear keeps them from discovering that we are soft and lovely and feminine and not very much different at all from “normal” girls.

I was dating a great guy with whom I had a lot in common. We clicked. Our personalities connected. We shared the same sense of humor and were, and still are, very attracted to each other--but he just can’t handle the fact that I am a Trans girl. He won’t admit it, but I believe that if it weren’t for that, we would be in an amazing relationship today. Now, we remain friends, sometimes close, sometimes distant, and it breaks my heart because to truly connect with someone is rare.

People have said to me if the connection was so incredible that he would be able to overlook my being a Trans girl. Personally, I don’t want to be tolerated, I want to be desired. It’s simplistic thinking to say if a man has a good heart he can sexually accept whatever happens. As we well know sex is different that love. It is a basic human fact that some people are attracted to penises, some vaginas. That’s just cold sex. When it comes to genuine affection physical forms don’t matter nearly as much but to deny it matters somewhat is deficient rationalization.

Some men simply can not see themselves in a deep meaningful relationship with a Trans woman. It scares them because of sexual fear and societal pressure. Their minds are owned by the dead.

We are taught to grow up, get an education, get a job, get married and have children—but why is the script so narrow? It is narrow because it was made by the dead. The world’s societal structure was formed by people ages ago who taught their sons and daughter who in turn taught their sons and daughters. We are a product of the dead.

Our minds are not our own. They are owned by the dead. We are trained to buy cars and clothes and houses and to attain goals on a list that we did not create for ourselves. We are asleep and obeying.

Fighting for ones true self takes a lot of courage, this we know. Intellect has a language, love has a language, they can be reasoned with but sex has no language. Sex is based on urge and desire and can not be reasoned with. This mixed with the sleeping mind, therein lays the conflict of acceptance of alternate physical forms.

To some men, a lovely woman (with a penis or a vagina) is simply a lovely woman regardless. These men “get it”. They understand that some women have different genitalia than others. They see that these ladies are still women much the same as any other. If a man makes a Trans woman cum, he is still making a girl cum, regardless of skin arrangement.

Alienation and depression, not to mention self loathing and hostility are all emotional struggles many Trans women face. It hurts to be rejected based on a medical condition. It also feels strange to be desired solely for it. Trans women want to be accepted as women. Not accepted as needy cases and not sought after by smutty tranny chasers.

When we lose someone who can’t accept us it hurts because there is nothing we can do about it. I can tell myself hopefully someday he will come around but until then I can miss him and love him and understand that it’s not his conscious choice… it’s about the lack of sexual language. We can not communicate sexually. He is afraid, he is ashamed and his mind is owned by the dead.

I wish people would wake up and simply realize that there are all kinds of women in the world and not all of them reside on the pages of Maxim magazine, well, not yet anyway.

So it’s true…

And he knew not what to do

Would anyone know why…

She let him believe this lie

You say you can’t believe

Then you divided what was mine

You’re off with that other girl

Now I will be left behind

So it’s true…

And I don’t know what to do

Now there will be nothing more

I have to watch you close the door