Pride and Pre-judged

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Many guys have asked me how and where to meet quality TS females. It is a great question and one I have pondered many times.  The girls who live “stealth” (without anyone knowing their Trans status) blend into society and remain undetectable.

If you come across a stealth Trans girl you might be able to tell if you know what to look for but most times with stealth girls you will never know.

The girls in the so called “tranny” bars are the only girls these guys seem to be meeting and therefore seem to be the representation of what’s available, but that is far from the truth.

The girls that are hanging out in the bars every night are mostly show girls and working girls. Perhaps addicted to drugs, plastic surgery and the fast easy money of selling the only commodity they have to offer to survive.

What many straight guys have asked me is how can I meet a Tgirl that I can date, hang out with, have a real relationship with. I want a girlfriend, not a hooker, they tell me. They are seeking a normal girl to have a normal relationship with and don’t know where to find them.

Unfortunately there is no quick fix easy answer here. There are those who are working to find a way to create and establishment that can cater to the needs of the guys and girls who want to meet without the escorts and the drugs. The idea is to create and club, bar or restaurant very similar to any other. Some club owners have tried to create high cover charges and high drink prices to keep discourage the escorts and the johns from coming in but have been unsuccessful. The sleazy element always seems to take root.

There have been attempts to create positive online experiences like tsgirlfriend.com they have a chat room that prohibits trolling for johns and escorts or sex hookups. There you can find a pleasant atmosphere to meet people but the major complaints coming from visitors has been the overzealous room monitors who are quick to eject and ban visitors who come in with little knowledge of how the room works. It is a wonderful place in theory but has not proven overly successful as far as matching couples. With over 5000 members it has generated a mere 20 relationships (many of which are ts lesbian couples). It is a wonderful site to gather information.

Since general society has prejudged TS females before ever knowing them as people, many men are too macho and prideful to openly seek a TS girlfriend. Often times they hide their desires-- meeting and dating TS girls in secret. This pride is also a key element in keeping the general acceptance of TS girls from gaining any ground.

Many TS women feel that men who actively seek TS girls do not understand that TS girls are girls, like any other, and don’t wish to be sought after because they are TS. They feel that those who do seek out TS are gay on some level. I personally highly disagree with that way of thinking. I believe a man can be heterosexual and still be attracted to a TS girl as long as he comprehends that she is female and knows that is what he is seeking. Where to meet one is another much more complicated subject.

If men would openly date TS girls and these girls gained some level of respect in the world and not be left in the dirty secret closet, maybe we can attain some form of happiness for all, and the stealth girls would come out of the clean closet. The stealth girls go to work and live very decent lives and would be happy to date a nice guy and have no one know about her--To have a normal relationship.

It is nobody’s business what goes on in your bedroom. I personally have successfully dated many men without their friends or families knowing my medical history. It’s better that way. No one needs to know and I personally prefer it that way.

There are many girls out there who refuse to be used for sex or be a part of the seedy world of the bar scene. They want something real, something more but who will be the ones to give it to them? I wish I knew how to resolve the problem of good guys finding the good girls but as along as the clubs are full of hooker and drugs and disease the stealth girls will remain in hiding, Apparently after having gone out of one closet, they are now locked in another.