The Dating Game, for Transsexuals
This entry was posted on 6/3/2008 11:18 AM and is filed under uncategorized.
A single Transsexual female might be a little weary of how to read the signals sent by men. Often times she is so inside her own head with worries of judgement; both by him as well as herself. One of the things we often feel is a general sense of being deemed an alternate catagory of female by the public at best. Nevermind all the headgames and judgements we place on ourselves.
When a man flirts with us, is he just being a flirty guy or might he really be interested? How sensitive we are to romantic advances is directly linked to how we feel about ourselves. Being mentally drowned out by the noise inside our own heads we can often miss hearing his message clearly. Picking up on the subtle nuances of the opposite sex has always been a dance. Trans or not.
I think it's important to allow men to do what they do, which is persue women. Let him approach you. Men go after what they want. Most men will tell you that. The more direct the better for all. That being said the average man will probably not be too comfortable with a transsexual woman, well not right off the bat anyway. Take your time. Be sure he is the type of guy you want to share your status with.
Don't be so desperate for affection that the slightest kindness or smile he gives you has you picking out china patterns. Take it slow; know your value. Just because you are transsexual does not mean in any way you are a "less than". You are a second class citizen only if you think you are. You teach people how to treat you.
Being wooed is a part of the mating dance. Women show affection freely, men do not usually do this. They show affection by being trying to charm you, showing off and bringing gifts. It's not about the money mind you. Keep in mind that is just they way men display emotion to a girl. It is a natural part of the dance so allow it to happen naturally.
Reading signals is as simple as red light stop green light go. If he wants you he will figure out a way to let you know. Allow it to bloom in the natural order of things. The only difference with adding the trans element into the equation is sensing his ability to comprehend the full spectrum of your situation and finally coming to the realization that it's no big deal.
The best way to meet your true mate is to first respect yourself, be happy with who you are, be kind, be relaxed and always be truthful with yourself. You are going to meet some men who can't handle the trans thing... but down the road you are going to met someone who can.
